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What Really Matters…The Aftermath of #BrettKimberlin UPDATED

Political Junkie’s Mom‘s post hit home for me as it ended a bizarre 24 hours for me. Sometimes, in the heat of battle, we get focused so much on the target…we forget what we are fighting for. That is both the positive (and negative) of being a man. Our ability to compartmentalize is what allows us to kill our enemies or prey by day and cradle our children at night. But sometimes we become too engrossed in one compartment. That is why my wife says that she sees her number one job as making sure I don’t ignore the home compartment…it was the same when I was in Iraq. I had a mission to do and I put 110% into it. It was hard to come off that precipice and interact with the family because switching compartments isn’t always easy…but it is necessary.

I tell my son each night when I tuck him in and pray over him (sometimes after he has fallen asleep) that he is a warrior, a scholar, and a gentlemen. But yesterday, while on the frontlines, this warrior had a jolt of why we fight…a jolt that I share with you, as we head into Memorial Day’s festivities. My only regret is that, this weekend, many won’t see it.

I had just gotten off the phone with my friend Stacy McCain, to wish him well and I already felt that twinge…a deep ache you feel for a comrade who is going through something and the helplessness you feel when you can’t really help. Then I sat down and started strolling through my FB Page and saw that my brother (who is deploying) was reunited for the weekend with his son and then I noticed a post from earlier in the week I missed from a close friend…he had lost his son at two months of age…

There are times when we are hit with a brick. There are times when God demands our attention. There are instances when the emotions of a moment are too rich. Sometimes, those moments all hit you at the same time.


As a Soldier, when I was deployed, I told those close to me that I had resigned my fate. I understood that each time I kissed my wife goodbye, it could be my last. Saying goodbye to my daughter in her crib at 14 months could be the only slightest memory she would have of me. And it was for them, I served my country. The trick is…once you have resigned your fate and after you come back, life is no longer about you. You have to make it about them…it is all there is left.

I fight for my children.

All five of them who are still here and one who we will see again. And it pisses me off that the America that I inherited as my birthright (24 days after Reagan took his oath of office) is being passed off to my posterity in worse shape than when I received it. I feel a bit like Esau’s son having just discovered that the birthright he so richly deserved was no longer his to hold because his parents had sold it for pittance.

That is why the fight we are in, this ideological struggle, is so intense at times. It is so because it is a true battle between two VERY different ideas of what America should look like for our children.

So, those who scream for civility on one hand just use “civility and tolerance” as a club to oppose dissent.

I believe in rational discourse. But when you are being robbed blind is NOT the time to engage in it.

When debate is necessary, I will debate.

When dissent is necessary, I will dissent.

But when my children are threatened and those we love are hurting…we must fight.

Because, my friend, our inalienable rights are worth fighting for. Because we aren’t guaranteed another breath. Because we aren’t guaranteed that the precious gifts God has given us to watch over will awake in the morning. Because there are things more important than US.

That is why I fight. But that is also why, this weekend, I am going to hug my children more. Be more patient when they interrupt my writing a blog. Teach them about what this weekend really means beyond the picnics, parties, and parades.

BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT REALLY MATTERS (I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments)

-In loving memory of those who have come before and those who we will see again when our fight is over-

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19 thoughts on “What Really Matters…The Aftermath of #BrettKimberlin UPDATED

  1. “So, those who scream for civility on one hand just use “civility and tolerance” as a club to oppose dissent.” Well said. Thank you.

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  4. loopyloo305 on said:

    Amen and amen!!! It only takes a few strong piers to support a well built house, but if someone takes one of those piers out, it doesn’t take much to bring the rest of the house down. Those who fight to keep our country strong and stand when they see wrong happening, are the very piers that make up the foundation of this country. We cannot allow them to be taken down. God bless!

  5. Well said. As Americans we must not only support our families, but also others of this great nation. For if we allow the rights and liberties of Americans to be restricted by doing nothing then how can we do right by our families.

  6. AblativeMeatShield on said:

    Eloquently stated. It’s been impossible to get my boomer parents to engage on any of this. They think it’s all just a real-life rerun of a 60’s sitcom.

  7. Jeffersonian on said:

    Thank you and God bless you for your service and your sacrifice. I want to apologize for my generation. I am just old enough to be your father. My generation is a lost generation. Technically, I suppose, I am a boomer, but as a late arrival to that generation, I was a little bit lost. I had no identity. I am not a hippie like many boomers. I did, however, avoid military service as it was very unpopular after the Vietnam debacle. I could, I suppose have served in Desert Storm, but I was married and believed I had to honor that commitment. I have since then become a rather conservative/libertarian type. I work every day to correct my faults and shortcomings and to save this country as a true bastion of liberty.

    Thank you again for your service and your sacrifice. I only wish I was worthy of it. God Bless. I will not let you down again.


    • R Daneel on said:


      I too am a boomer. I did serve. I did take part in the hippie – counter-culture thing. I did educate myself.

      Dad was a life long member of the CPUSA. I know what we are fighting. I am a Constitutional Conservative and an Oath Keeper.

      Quit the self-absorbed pity-party and get busy trying to save The Republic. Time is short. We only have one more chance.

  8. I blogged on this subject too, though not as eloquently as you. As a father of five I feel the same way about the legacy to be left to our children. I stand with you!

  9. jans friend on said:

    Great article! It seems that we allow the liberals to control the language and the conversation. Lets encourage people to stop saying ‘gay’ when they mean homosexual.

  10. Beautifully said, and a worthwhile reminder to us all.

    • Jeep Zea on said:

      Thank you sir for saying and believing the same things as I. Being an almost 70 year old retired person, it is very tempting to tell myself, “I’ve fought the battle and should just shut up and go fishing, forget the liberal blather, my vote doesn’t count anyway.” In truth, I did say this until November 2008. My heart and mind told me we were in for a bumpy ride, so I began listening and reading and learning how horribly distorted our government had become and realizing the distortion was equally attributed to Progressive Democrats and Republicans. The realization that my America had become this haven for liberal fuzzy math, liberal gimme yours, liberal Eurovision, and the mac-daddy of hateful, leftist propaganda U.N.Agenda 21. God help America if this disaster in the making is not stopped cold and reversed by cities in America that have already signed on.
      Now, I Facebook, tweet and bore anyone and everyone with endless facts and articles in an effort to reduce and reverse this life threatening malady called liberalism, because my children and theirs deserve to have the country my generation and all those before us fought and died to defend.
      God Bless America and pass the bacon!

  11. A well written piece. I no longer care about civility when dealing with the left – they view it as weakness.

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  13. Margaret McC. on said:

    May God continue to offer us more real men like you, Sir. I’m a 74-year-old reformed liberal (for some decades now) and I can sometimes not sleep at night for fear of what is in store for my children and grandchildren if the Left succeeds in its evil goals of destroying all that I have enjoyed through the sacrifices made by preceding generations.

    I too bore my fellow conservatives, and a few old, but somewhat normal, liberals with e-mail links to articles that highlight our peril. That and daily prayer and petition to God to have mercy on our country for the sake of the good men and women and innocent children in it. I’m getting too old and scatty to do much more besides donations to worthy candidates and some walking of precincts.

  14. Bravo, and thank you for your service. We are truly blessed to have men like you watching over us.

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  16. Ron Robertson on said:

    As a 59 year old Australian, count me proud to stand by your side.
    This is the real thing.

    Love to your family and love to you.

    Ron Robertson from Melbourne Australia

  17. What a fabulous “why we fight.”

    Thanks for such a prominent link and acknowledgement. I tracked back, but we’re in the middle of a drawn out PCS, so I’m a little late to comment. ; ) Glad to have found your blog and once I have a little time I’ll add you to my roll and daily reader.

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